I realise this blog post most certainly isn’t going to apply to everyone, but with my birthday in less than a fortnight, I’ve been feeling reflective (when don’t I?) I’m almost 22. TWENTY TWO. Yes, I know, it’s nothing in the grand scheme of things, but I’ve been on this bloody planet for 22 years, and over the past couple of years I’ve had article upon article rammed down my throat about how I should be spending my 20s. Quite frankly, I’m sick of it.
Below is a list of 8 things I’m sick of hearing about my 20s. Enjoy!
‘Only do what you love’
Us twenty year olds are always being told to only do what we love. Don’t settle for anything less. Thankfully, I’ve already landed on my feet in something I love doing, but that isn’t the case for a lot of my friends, and that’s okay. Work isn’t your life, you don’t need to let it define you, but it’s pretty bloody important to make sure you can pay your bills.
‘Try as many careers as you can’
Er, have you been living on the same planet as me? It’s difficult enough to get a job at a fast food restaurant, or your local supermarket, let alone switching careers every 6 months to a year. As I said before, enjoying what you do is massively important, but it’s not important for everyone. Sometimes it’s enough for someone to go to work in the morning, mosey on and come back home at night, happy that they’ve worked for what they’ve got.
‘Save as much as you can’
Hold on a second, you were just telling me to skip from job to job until I’m happy, so if I do that, I can’t really afford to save? Saving is definitely important, especially with the current housing market and the general cost of living, but sometimes it really isn’t as easy as that. A lot of us are working from the bottom and just scraping by. You keep scraping, you’ll be in a better position to save soon enough. (It is a good idea to start thinking about it though)
‘Travel, travel, travel’
Okay, Okay, so in between all that job skipping and saving I’m supposed to travel. Where have you come from and can I go back with you please? Travel isn’t to everybody’s taste, mine included. I’m such a creature of comfort that I’d spend my entire time looking for the nearest McDonald’s and Asda. It also isn’t physically possible in a lot of cases. Please stop romanticising life, it doesn’t work like that.
‘Don’t waste time’
Wasting time is completely relative. What does it mean? My version of wasting time probably isn’t the same as yours, so let’s calm down on that one.
Stop thinking about your future, focus on the present. Again, it doesn’t work like that. We are in a position where we have to work for E V E R Y T H I N G, so sometimes slowing down isn’t an option. I’m not saying I want a baby, I’m way too selfish for that right now, but the average female’s fertility starts to decline at around age 30, so shouldn’t we be planning for the future early, just to make sure?
‘Don’t settle down yet’
To an extent I understand this one, but by the same token, I’ve been settled for a while now, and I’m quite happy with my Dan, thank you very much. I don’t care for sleeping with as many men as possible, or having a one night stand, or just dating in excess until I find the ‘perfect partner’. Lots of girls my age are settled with children, or planning their upcoming wedding, and if that’s what they want to do, good luck to them!
‘You don’t know everything’
I’ve been told this my entire life, I’m pretty sure I’m aware. What I do know, though, is myself. I know what makes me happy, and what doesn’t. I know what I want in life, and who I’m happy spending my time with. I also know that I’m going to learn a lot in the next 8 years, but aren’t we all? Life changes all the time, we’re all learning all the time, age doesn’t define how much you know, just as knowledge doesn’t define your age.
We’re in our twenties, we’re going to make mistakes, why not just let us make them?