I don’t have much of an introduction for this because it’s already a million miles long, but it was my birthday yesterday and I wanted to share some of the quotes dear to my heart and what they mean to me.
When you get to the end there’s a little competition to get involved in too!
- A tidy house really is a tidy mind.
My granny and grandad used to bang on about that every time there was a rogue sock on my bedroom floor, but I never really believed it until recently. When you have a rubbish mental health day, the worst thing to come to is mess, in every room. Keeping on top of the housework really does help to calm the mind.
- Those who matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter.
To me, this quote refers not to the people who disagree with you, but those whose lives you influence. As long as you’re staying true to yourself and the people around you recognise and appreciate that, it’s all that matters. Just don’t be a dick.
- Work to become, not to acquire.
Yes, we have to work in order to earn money which will pay our bills and buy us nice things. That being said, I’ve gained a lot more from the people I work with and the things I’ve learned from them than I have being paid monthly.
- Believe in yourself, have faith in your abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.
This is super rich coming from Negative Nancy the First over here but I promise you it’s true. Since believing that I am good at some things (note, SOME), I have become better at those things, gained something from them, and have been happier doing them as a result!
- When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hold on.
In other words, when you’re about ready to lose your shit, put a lid on it and keep on truckin’. Eventually, you’ll get over it.
- The right time is always now.
Seriously though, how many times have you decided to start something on Monday, and then when Tuesday comes and you haven’t started your diet, or blogged, or hit the gym, you’ll HAVE to wait until next Monday now. Why? I’m trying my best to get out of that mentality and I feel so much more accomplished.
- Be a voice, not an echo.
While it’s great to agree with others, it’s not always good enough to just like a tweet or share a status. If you truly believe in something so much that it makes your belly burn, bloody go out and fight for it. Tell people how you feel, don’t just nod and move along.
- Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.
Yes. Things do get tough, and I refuse to listen to anybody who says otherwise. No matter where you’re from or what you do, there will always be something that’ll test you, but you’ll overcome it.
- It’s the little things in life.
It’s very rare that I remember huge Deep Meaningful Conversations and all the presents I’ve ever received from my family and friends, but I always remember the little things. Like a text the morning after I have a bad episode to see if I’m okay, or a nice commuter who always lets me off the train first. Do something nice for someone, they’ll remember it.
- Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
Be passionate about the things you do and the things you want. Passion determines success, and if you love something enough, you’ll do whatever it takes to achieve it, acquire it, see it etc. Just don’t be a dick in the process, that ain’t cool.
- Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.
This is a hard one to remember, and one I struggle with on the regular. When you’re having a crappy day, it’s nice to sit down at the end of it and try as hard as you can to think of the one tiny bit of good that came out of it. For example, you may have got a slap on the wrist from your boss, but you also gave a packet of crisps to a homeless person who wouldn’t have eaten had you not been there.
- Stars can’t shine without darkness.
I like to remember this when I’m going through a really rubbish time. Everyone who gets dragged through the shit will always come out the other end a little bit stronger, a little bit tougher and a little bit more resilient, and isn’t that what we all need to be everything we can be?
- Take charge and don’t apologise for it.
This is especially prominent for women trying to make it in the corporate world. You are not bossy, you are passionate. You want to get shit done, you want to do well, and so does everybody else in this world. Don’t you dare let anyone, male or otherwise, take that from you.
- Empowered women empower women.
I used to drag other girls, didn’t we all? But over the last couple of years I’ve learnt that doing that isn’t helping out cause, it’s hindering it. If Molly wants to wear a shit tonne of make up while on her way to work as a HCA, let’s leave her to it. If Danielle wants to leave the house in nothing more than a blazer, let her be. We’ve spent far too long policing and judging other women, and it’s time to cut each other some fucking slack.
- Your vibe attracts your tribe.
I spoke about having friends in a previous post which you can read here, but I wanted to touch on it again. What you give out to the universe you get back in one way or another, and as long as you have some pretty sick people around you who accept you for who you are and support you in everything you do, you’ve done pretty damn well.
- You’ll only regret the things you didn’t do.
It may sound strange, but this stuck with me because I disagree with it so much. While there are some things that I think, damn it, I don’t really ~get~ FOMO. Although sometimes I will sit and curse my mental health because I didn’t get to go to a gig, or I couldn’t stay late on a night out with my friends, I also know that the decisions I make are what’s best for me at the time, and I’m comfortable with that.
- Everything I am, you’ve helped me to be.
This one is for the family. We’ve all been through a hell of a lot together and probably wouldn’t have made it out the other side as unharmed as we have had we not had each other by our sides. Yes, we argue. Yes, we disagree, but there is no chance that I’ll ever have to suffer anything completely alone.
- Everybody has a chapter they don’t read out loud
and that’s okay. It’s fine to have experienced something that you’d like to forget ever happened. Don’t ever feel like you need to put every single piece of you on the table all the time. If you don’t want to share it, don’t bother.
- At first glance it may appear too hard. Look again, always look again.
Pretty self-explanatory, no? Life often throws us a curveball. Whether it’s a part of your job you don’t think you can do, or you can’t afford to pay your phone bill this month, if you look at it again with a clear head, you’ll be surprised what you can tackle.
- One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.
If you’ve had a crappy past, eventually you’ll do well to just drop it and move on. If an ex boyfriend has cheated on you and made you feel worthless, you’ll feel so much lighter when you decide that enough is enough. There’s no point in worrying about things that happened years ago, because all they do is stop us from enjoying who we are right now.
- You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
Like, for real though. We’re all doing the best we can with what we have, and if we can still make progress with that, we’ve got a good chance of getting our shit together at some point.
- Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.
Just don’t be nasty. It makes you feel like shit and it makes them feel like shit. You don’t know just how the other person is feeling inside, and the last thing they need is an unrelenting attack.
- You can’t rush something you want to last forever.
I always look at this one and think of Dan, my fiance. There’s no hurry in owning a house and getting married and having 2 children and a dog named Fido. We will do things as and when it feels right to, because we have the rest of our lives together to focus on everything we want to build. Work on building an empire together, don’t be hasty.
- Have courage, and be kind.
Have you any quotes that mean a lot to you? Let me know in the comments!
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— 🍁Ciara🍂🌰 (@xociara) November 27, 2016